Dec
31

my 2011…

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I remember New Year’s Eve last year – I told my best friend that 2011 was going to be a year of changes. And boy, was it ever. So many great memories: trips to NY & Los Angeles, meeting new friends and reconnecting with old ones, incYourself’s client list grew. It was a great year with so many blessings. But as the year started winding down, I faced one of the biggest changes of my adult-life.  It was also one of the biggest blessings: I stood face-to-face with my dreams. 2011 woke me up.

It’s frighteningly easy to get caught up in our routines. (Also known as the American way of life.) We work, we try to make time for play, and put our best foot forward. But what happens when you realize you’re not doing what truly makes you happy? Do we settle? Is happiness defined by the size of our paychecks; relationships; the car we drive; the house we live in?  I think we all reach a point where we question where we are  in life. The key is to take some time and get a little introspective. Don’t overthink it, but ask yourself what truly fulfills you on a soul level: being at peace with life and work? We’re programmed to think we are not in control of our destiny, but if we face our future with courage and passion, we might just stumble on the path to the destiny WE choose.

So here’s to the last day of 2011 – a year of changes, and a bigger year of changes in 2012. Cheers, y’all…. and be safe!

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Dec
16

a magical night …

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so, I’ve been trying to figure out what to do with some of this extra time I have on my hands these days. I’ve been looking to volunteer, but a majority of the programs I’m interested in requires a year commitment. I’m not sure I’ll be here for an entire year. Well, about two weeks ago I received a Facebook invite from a friend to meet up at The Flying Fig for happy hour and then pass out winter gear to the homeless here in Cleveland. It was an opportunity to get out of my head for awhile and do something for someone else. I didn’t know a majority of the people that showed up last night, but that was the best part. We shared a common purpose.

People were so generous with their donations. We had bags full of cashmere sweaters, hats, gloves, scarves and there was even a pink Prada skull cap!  We still had a few bags left over at the end of the night, so we decided to drop off the rest of the gear at St. Malachai’s – one of Cleveland’s soup kitchens.  We circled the church for awhile to figure out the best place to drop off the goods, and noticed a group of people in one of the buildings. We walked in on an AA meeting. Awkward. But we finally found the right place to drop everything off –  a nun directed us to choir practice. This was the highlight of the night, and such a perfect and peaceful way to end our mission.

It’s difficult to put the night and all the stories into words, but I can try to sum it up: you really don’t realize how good you have it until you’re standing face-to-face with desperation. It was also a great reminder, especially for this time of year –   no matter what you’re going through in life, there are those who have it so much worse. We are blessed.

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Dec
14

searching …

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I’ve spent the last 3 weeks sending out my resume. It’s not the best time of year for job hunting, due to the holidays, but as we all know …  time isn’t always on our side. I’ve been on MediaBistro.com, Indeed.com and CraigsList.org. (Am I missing any?) Granted, it’s been 20 years since I’ve done a serious job search, but you really have to jump through some hoops to apply for a job online! Don’t get me wrong, I have no issues with doing what it takes to get your name out there, but is it really necessary to re-enter your information after you’ve already uploaded your resume? And how much of this information do recruiters really look at?

So what really works when you’re job hunting? (Networking vs. Online search.) I know a lot of people in my field – and last month that network grew to include the president and HR rep at Warner Bro Records. They have given me some incredible advice and they’re big believers in networking, but do you leave it all up to the people you’ve made a connection with? I’ve learned a valuable lesson over the past month: it’s up to You to make things happen. To obtain your dreams. That’s not to say ‘who you know’ doesn’t speed up that process, but you need to know exactly what you’re looking for and bring in your network for support and recommendations. Oh, and never burn bridges when it comes to your career. It’s important to have people on your side.

My recommendation:  when life has you searching, it’s important to stay dedicated and hold on to hope. There’s always a solution.

“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”~Martin Luther King, Jr.

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November 11th, the day my boss called and asked me to head up to Human Resources. I knew something was up because she told me the day before that her boss wanted to talk to us and she had no idea what it was about. (This was the red flag: I never hear from her boss.) It was so kind of her to give me such a vague heads up, right? But it’s not like I didn’t know what was coming: after 10 years with the company, I never had to visit HR. I hung up the phone and made my way to the 5th floor. Talk about living in the moment.  I sat down in the chair and listened to my boss stumble over her words via speakerphone: “we’re eliminating your position. It has nothing to do with your performance. I don’t know what else to say.” Chicken. It’s funny, 10 years of service and attached sales in the millions and the meeting lasted maybe 5 minutes. The HR rep closed the meeting with one final question: ” do you have anything to say?” Oh, I had plenty to say, but I made a conscious decision to keep my integrity intact. They took enough from me over the past 10 years, and I was going to walk out of there with grace.

I was asked to put a turnover report together and review it with my boss before my official last day on 11/16. It was 6-pages long. It included my current campaigns, outstanding proposals, contacts and day-to-day job duties.  I turned it in two days early and it was up to my boss now to schedule a follow up call to review the report. The call was re-scheduled three times. When we finally got on the phone she could only speak in 15-minute intervals because “she was too upset.” At one point she asked me: “what if I asked you to stay?” I was confused … obviously … and the back and forth was pure torture. Perhaps the turnover report concerned her?  I just wanted to walk away and now we were playing head games again. But it was just another confirmation –  I needed to get out of there. Of course there’s an underlying fear with this opportunity: What am I going to do? What about my house? My livelihood? But I had something to look forward to, I was headed to Los Angeles on 11/17 for a planned vacation! I hadn’t been to L.A in at least 13 years, but I knew in my heart that this trip was going to be much more than I expected. And this is when my life took another interesting turn.

I picked up my rental car at LAX and made my way to Red O on Melrose (thank god for GPS!)  to meet up with friends that I was staying with. It was the perfect place to spend the first evening in Los Angeles. Amazing. It was so nice to see them and we picked up right where we left off. These are the friendships that stand the test of time. I am so proud of them. One is a SVP at Warner Bro Records, and the other is a VP at Live Nation. They are living the life… the life they worked so hard for. After Red O, we headed to their place in the Hollywood Hills – a few doors down from Charlize Theron. Paradise.  I went for a hike every morning and fell in love with the west coast all over again. It felt like home.

I was scheduled to leave on 11/21, but the universe had something else in store. I landed an interview with HR at WB, thanks to their other roommate – the president of WB Records. Oh! Did I forget to mention that part?! At first I was hesitant to change my plane ticket – with no job and all –  but the voice in my head said: “are you nuts?!” I changed my ticket and headed to WB studios on Monday morning. I was rather nervous at first, but the HR rep made me feel so comfortable.  I told her my story (the shorter version) and she gave me some incredible feedback. She said the universe has given me an incredible opportunity and there were bigger things in store for me. I couldn’t thank her enough. We ended the interview and I handed her my resume. I started to head back to my friend’s office, and she came back to discuss my resume. She said wanted to “spice it up a little bit” and would send me a completely revised edition. It arrived in my in-box two days later. It’s amazing! Talk about a blessing! After I interviewed with HR, the president wanted me to speak with their new VP of Digital Services. This just took things to another level. He shared their digital strategy and mentioned their need for someone to build their custom digital packages for artists. I had the biggest smile on my face. It also made me realize how much I wanted to get back into the music industry. I spent 10 years at Alternative Press Magazine (my first job) and I loved the creative environment. I quit because I wanted needed to experience the corporate world.. and boy did I ever. I’m not sure what will come of the WB interview – and hiring tends to die down over the holidays – but I do know which direction I’m headed.

They say be careful what you wish for, but I say that’s rubbish. Just make sure that what you wish for is exactly what you want … what your SOUL wants. Wishing is energy, and when we put a wish on continuos loop it often comes to fruition. I know in my heart that this is the best thing for me. I needed this push. And there’s something else, I haven’t felt this peaceful in a very long time. I’m enjoying some time off and putting things in order. It’s time to make a big move.

Speaking of music… I discovered this lovely lady when I was in L.A – Lana Del Ray. Mad love! The video is so Hollywood!

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